Hold my hand...

Read this little story somewhere on the internet ~

A Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.The father was concerned for his little girl so he asked his daughter,"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river."The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand.""What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father."There's a big difference," replied the little girl."If I hold your hand and something happens to me,chances are that I may let your hand go.But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens,you will never let my hand go."

This small story immediately struck a chord with me.

The moment I read it, I felt that this is what I want to pray to God, Ishwar, Allah or whatever you name that superpower; who looks over us and loves us and cares for us, that ~

"Oh lord, please you hold my hand. I have more trust in your love for me than I have in my love for you.

In this journey of life today I might be holding on your your hand, but there might be times when my eyes would be dazed by the brightness of the petty things around me and I might feel like leaving your hand and touching them.

There might be times when I would be would be attracted towards the hollow fanfare of this world and feel tempted to leave your hand and run after them.

There might be times when I would see victory, success, fame, love, friends, luxury and feel that I dont need to hold on to your hand.

There might be times when I would face failure, dejection, depression and my mind would be clogged with doubts about you and your ways and I would start questioning your whole existence.

In all these times, if I am holding your hand, I might leave it anytime. But if you are holding my hand, I know that whatever happens, you will not let go of my hand, ever...."

My rose...

Scratched by the thorns,
I come upon a rose ~
Red and warm
With stories untold...
One by one as it's petals I unfold,
I'm touching upon it's heart of gold.....

Can you be in love with two people at the same time?

Was talking to a friend recently. We started talking about relationships and he popped a question in front of me ~ "Can a person love two people at the same time?" My first and natural response was "Yes, there can be certain situations in which a person can love two people at the same time." He was a little speculative for a moment and then we started talking about other things.

But after that, my mind started working on this thought. I did answer in the affirmative to my friend, but then when I started thinking about it deeply, I started seeing some issues to be explored in this thought. If you love two people at the same time, where would your loyalties lie? what would become of your mental and emotional faithfullness? Which person's expectations would you fulfill ?

At the same time, I was also thinking that if you have had feelings of love for someone at one point of time, does it mean that you have to make a wall around you and not let anyone else's love touch you ? Love has never been not about possessing. It is a spontaneous feeling which takes birth in your heart for someone by itself. It defies all control, rules, logic and any benefit/loss equations.

So then, what is the right perspective? I was thinking over it and suddenly found the key thing ~
A person maybe/can be in love with two people at a time. Time, situation, events can lead to a
situation where he feels the same emotions for two people at the same time, the intensities though may vary. But the important thing here is, that even though the person is having feelings of love for both the people, he cannot be behaving in the same way to both the people. He cannot be expecting the same things from both the people. He cannot be doing the same things for both the people. He can have love for both the people, but he cannot have the same relationship with two people. So essentially, the basic love can be same, but the extension of that love to the two people should be different. One relationship has to take precedent over the other. Difficult though, but he has to make this choice of expression ~ if not for anybody, then for his own peace, truth and the purity of love that he has inside him.

Another chance to get it right...

New year is here again...time to make new resolutions ~ another chance for us to get it right......

Though it is few days past the new year...but guess not too late for penning down the new year resolutions. Had made a compilation of these mentally on the onset of the year, so here I go announcing these to the world (if anybody does care to listen..!) and even to myself ~

1.Nourish the body ~ exercise regulary, eat right, drink at least 2 litres of water daily

2.Nourish the mind ~ Go back to my old habit of reading...and read quality stuff...read at least 10 good books in the year...

3.Nourish the soul ~ Do more photography with my heart and soul in it...listen to more music....connect more with nature...daily spend some quality time with myself.

4.The last year was a year in which 'He' took steps towards me, made me feel 'His' presence in my life. This year its my turn. By the end of this year I will have formed a connection with 'Him'...

5.Take better care of my parents.

6.Learn to play at least 10 songs on guitar.

7.Travel more ~ see more places...Places on top of my list are:
Places in Gujarat: Patan, Kutch, Somnath, Saputara, Palitana
Places outside Gujarat: Ladakh, Kashmir, Himachal, Gadhwal

8. Create a collection of at least 20 good photpgraphs on at least 5 different themes...

9.hmmmm...would like to keep this one secret..... :)

10.Write more regularly in this blog......this one was surely called for !

One main reason to put these on the blog is that if i do slip on any of these, someone might put me back on track.. :)

Dont look into my eyes...

The pangs of lonliness
Pull the tears from my disguise
Salty drops of water
Laugh on my life's lies..

I've painted my picture
With glass and colourful dyes
See me through it, if you want ~
But dont look into my eyes...

Ab to...

Bhatakte kadam

Bojhal aankhein

Sadiyon ki pyaas....

Ab to ye registan khatm kar...... ya phir ye talaash.......

Nothing is permanent except change...

What was yesterday is not today, what is today will not be tomorrow. We all know it. The good thing about bad things is that they come to an end and the bad thing about good things is that they too come to an end. We all know this too. But then why is it that its so difficult for us to accept changes? Why is it that knowing well the effervescent nature of things, we still want them to last forever?

A beautiful pink rose bud comes on my rose plant. I see it, admire it, see it grow and bloom into a beautiful flower. Love its colours and smell its fragrance. With time the flower dries up and withers away. But why should i cry over its loss, I should be happy that till the time it lasted i could see it, touch it, smell it with my whole being. I have taken in the beauty of that flower so fully and completely that even when it is not there physically, it is living in my senses. This is acceptance of change with grace.

The beauty of sun at the time of sunset is magical, but again it is momentary. The whole drama of the intense colours lasts for a few minutes. The sun is sure to set after that. It would be foolish to wish the play of colours to last forever. But someone with the right thinking would feel grateful for having witnessed such a beautiful phenomenon, for having being one with it, even for only a few moments, and would be able to accept the change of the sun's bright glow to stars' twinkling beauty.

Beautiful, ecstatic moments in life ~ come and go. Without the need to cling on to them and wishing them to last forever, the right way is you feel them, live them, be grateful for them and then cherish them ...