My rose...

Scratched by the thorns,
I come upon a rose ~
Red and warm
With stories untold...
One by one as it's petals I unfold,
I'm touching upon it's heart of gold.....

Can you be in love with two people at the same time?

Was talking to a friend recently. We started talking about relationships and he popped a question in front of me ~ "Can a person love two people at the same time?" My first and natural response was "Yes, there can be certain situations in which a person can love two people at the same time." He was a little speculative for a moment and then we started talking about other things.

But after that, my mind started working on this thought. I did answer in the affirmative to my friend, but then when I started thinking about it deeply, I started seeing some issues to be explored in this thought. If you love two people at the same time, where would your loyalties lie? what would become of your mental and emotional faithfullness? Which person's expectations would you fulfill ?

At the same time, I was also thinking that if you have had feelings of love for someone at one point of time, does it mean that you have to make a wall around you and not let anyone else's love touch you ? Love has never been not about possessing. It is a spontaneous feeling which takes birth in your heart for someone by itself. It defies all control, rules, logic and any benefit/loss equations.

So then, what is the right perspective? I was thinking over it and suddenly found the key thing ~
A person maybe/can be in love with two people at a time. Time, situation, events can lead to a
situation where he feels the same emotions for two people at the same time, the intensities though may vary. But the important thing here is, that even though the person is having feelings of love for both the people, he cannot be behaving in the same way to both the people. He cannot be expecting the same things from both the people. He cannot be doing the same things for both the people. He can have love for both the people, but he cannot have the same relationship with two people. So essentially, the basic love can be same, but the extension of that love to the two people should be different. One relationship has to take precedent over the other. Difficult though, but he has to make this choice of expression ~ if not for anybody, then for his own peace, truth and the purity of love that he has inside him.

Another chance to get it right...

New year is here again...time to make new resolutions ~ another chance for us to get it right......

Though it is few days past the new year...but guess not too late for penning down the new year resolutions. Had made a compilation of these mentally on the onset of the year, so here I go announcing these to the world (if anybody does care to listen..!) and even to myself ~

1.Nourish the body ~ exercise regulary, eat right, drink at least 2 litres of water daily

2.Nourish the mind ~ Go back to my old habit of reading...and read quality stuff...read at least 10 good books in the year...

3.Nourish the soul ~ Do more photography with my heart and soul in it...listen to more music....connect more with nature...daily spend some quality time with myself.

4.The last year was a year in which 'He' took steps towards me, made me feel 'His' presence in my life. This year its my turn. By the end of this year I will have formed a connection with 'Him'...

5.Take better care of my parents.

6.Learn to play at least 10 songs on guitar.

7.Travel more ~ see more places...Places on top of my list are:
Places in Gujarat: Patan, Kutch, Somnath, Saputara, Palitana
Places outside Gujarat: Ladakh, Kashmir, Himachal, Gadhwal

8. Create a collection of at least 20 good photpgraphs on at least 5 different themes...

9.hmmmm...would like to keep this one secret..... :)

10.Write more regularly in this blog......this one was surely called for !

One main reason to put these on the blog is that if i do slip on any of these, someone might put me back on track.. :)