Floating...

Floating in the open sky,

My orange wings dipped in its blue....

Can feel its tenderness and care,

And hear my heart singing too...

Searching for happiness...

Was feeling low a couple of days back, which had obviously not happened for the first time. Also when i see around me, i find people feeling low, depressed every now and then. It just got me thinking ~ Why are we not as happy as we all should be, as we all deserve to be? Why round the corner of every happy lane, there is sadness hiding to pounce upon us whenever possible?

I think its because we are looking for happiness in the wrong places ~ in achievements, in fun vacations, in our realtionships with other people, in anything that gives a boost to our egos. But the bad news is that however good a vacation, it does end, and however big an achievement is, its joy eventually fades, and however good a realtionship is, it has its bad days.So, when this happens then what do we do? We find ourselves in a state or boredom or depression. Nothing around us interests us. One day we were ecstatic and finding everything perfect and the other day we are low and lost and find nothing worth. This happens because we had centered our happiness on something. When that thing was gone, our happiness also went along with it.

So what is the solution?

I think is to find happiness inside ourselves only. If we are happy and content with ourselves, if we are at peace with our ownself then nothing happening outside us can bother us. We need to free ourselves from all negativities, self doubts and fear of tomorrow; and fill our soul with love and compassion for everyone.

Rather than counting on any materialistic or emotional extravanganza for our happiness, we need to find happiness in the simple things of life ~ a golden sunrise from the window, a warm hug from someone close, listening to the pitter-patter of rains with a hot tea, feeling the breeze play on your face; getting inside a warm bed on a cold night...

When we can feel happy just by looking at a flower blooming or a child playing, we can know that we have touched some chords of the true source of happiness inside us...

Lie and trust…

How do you react when someone very close to you lies to you, and you know that he is lying ?

I feel there could be two approaches ~

1) Pretend that you dont know that the person is lying, to avoid a situation or avoid the hurt that would follow.
Or

2) Confront the person and tell him on the face that you know the truth.

Since anything that causes hurt, leads to a flared reaction, my normal, instant reaction would have been to feel hurt and tell the person on the face that I know the truth, and ask him why did he have to lie to me….

But on second thoughts, i feel what purpose would that serve? There could be a couple of reasons for which a person would have lied to me. Either he has something to hide, or there's a guilt inside him or he doesnt trust me enough to tell me the truth, or….. maybe all ! In either of the case, isn’t it more about his own negativities? Where am I in this? Why should I confront him on this, and lead to a useless rounds of accusations, defendings and explanations…more negativities….

This leads me another pertinent question ~ Would this situation arise if there is true closeness and honesty between two people? I don’t think so…If two people are really close, none of them would ever find a situation where one has to lie to the other. And even if one does, the other will never ask for any explanations. That is what real trust is all about…

After this introspection, I feel in the above situation there could be a third approach too ~ An approach of trust and forgiveness….

And if I have to choose my reaction, where the other person matters to me, I would choose the third approach. Yes, even if there would be a question on the truth of the closeness from both sides, I would stick to the honesty and trust on my part and choose not ask for any explanations….

Love - winning and losing

To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose ~ the next best.
-William Makepeace

How true...!

Read these line somewhere and it got me thinking. When we talk of 'love', where is any place of 'winning' or 'losing'? Love is not a game where you win or lose. If 'winning' means getting the other person to love you back, then you are not loving, you are satisfying your own ego. If 'losing' means the person not loving you back equally then too, what is your loss? You love not to get into a business deal, where you give something to get something in return. You love because you cant help it. Beacuse love is that stream of joy which flows from your heart by itself. If its love that we are talking about, then it should be like that stream ~ just happy to be flowing....

Blow the candles...

Blow the candles…
And celebrate the birth of a death
Blow them off,
Before it lives for another illusion

Blow the candles…
And let the darkness stab my heart
Blow them off
And let the smoke choke my soul

Blow the candles…
And end the games
Of the wicked flame,
My weary eyes are tired now………

If only I could find a cupboard
I’d get in quietly,
And sleep in it forever.........

The end

With nothing to smile for,
Everyday I tell myself a new lie...
With nothing to live for,
Why dont i die......??
The day has ended
Much before the night,
The music's over
I want to turn off the light.................

Journey or destination...

Parallel tracks of the train ~
Moving together, what do they gain..?
Talking to them without a mask,
"Do you ever meet" I had to ask.

"Does it matter?" the return question
"Do you believe in journey or destination?
Together so much in every terrain,
We shine in the same sun,
And gleam in the same rain;
Still alone in our own way
Never coming in each other's way,

Far in the horizon we may seem to be nearer,
But here in the now we are together;
Any dream is alive till it shatters,
Ours is living, isn't that all that matters?"

I nod in agreement with them and with me,
Yes, it's not the destination, its always the journey...

Love is not a relationship...

Came across this beautiful passage about 'love and relationship' by OSHO.....liked it and could completely relate to it ~

LOVE IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP. Love relates, but it is not a relationship. A relationship is something finished. A relationship is a noun; the full stop has come, the honeymoon is over. Now there is no joy, no enthusiasm, now all is finished. You can carry it on, just to keep your promises. You can carry it on because it is comfortable, convenient, cozy. You can carry it on because there is nothing else to do. You can carry it on because if you disrupt it, it is going to create much trouble for you… Relationship means something complete, finished, closed.

Love is never a relationship; love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends. It is not like a novel that starts at a certain point and ends at a certain point. It is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, love continues– it is a continuum. It is a verb, not a noun. And why do we reduce the beauty of relating to relationship? Why are we in such a hurry? Because to relate is insecure, and relationship is a security. Relationship has a certainty; relating is just a meeting of two strangers, maybe just an overnight stay and in the morning we say goodbye. Who knows what is going to happen tomorrow?

You are in love with a woman or a man and immediately you start thinking of getting married. Make it a legal contract. Why? How does the law come into love? The law comes into love because love is not there. It is only a fantasy, and you know the fantasy will disappear. Before it disappears settle down, before it disappears do something so it becomes impossible to separate.

In a better world, with more meditative people, with a little more enlightenment spread over the earth, people will love, love immensely, but their love will remain a relating not a relationship. It will not be guaranteed by the law, by the court, by the policeman. The guarantee will be inner. It will be a commitment from the heart. It has not even to be verbalized, because to verbalize it is to profane it. It has to be a silent commitment; eye to eye, heart to heart, being to being. It has to be understood, not said...