Letting go...

At times in life it is ncessary to 'let go' ~

-of circumstances that we do not like but cannot change

-of people that we cannot hold back in our lives
-of relationships that are no longer working for us

Letting go does not mean we are giving up or accepting defeat. It simply means that we are not clinging on to the things which are changing with time and accepting with grace the way our destiny is unfolding. It means that we are letting go of the compulsion to make everything "perfect" as per our understanding.

Letting go is akin to "flowing with the flow". Its like flowing in the river of life like a leaf flows in a stream ~ Taking in everything that comes in the way, seeing everything that this life has to show us, learning everything that this life has to teach us.

By not resisting the things that we cannot change, we can bring an end to the frustrations born out of the helplessness, and a lot of peace can be attained by simply dissolving our individual will in the cosmic will....

But how do we let go...? What is the change that we should bring about in our thinking process....? What are the things that we should be avoiding..?

Here are some practical pointers ~

-Accepting- the things as they are, accepting the limitations of yourself and the people involved.

-Admitting the obvious truth - that you are not responsible to affect a change or correct a problem which is beyond your competency, power, authority or responsibility.

-No perfectionism - Allowing yourself to rid yourself of the perfectionistic need to control every aspect of your life so that nothing goes "wrong" in it.

-Realistic acceptance of loss - after fully grieving a loss admitting that there is nothing left to be done but to accept the loss.

-Confessing faith in God- Openly declare and believe that God, your "Higher Power" is stronger and a great source of power to whom you can hand over these things out of your control. This also involves declaring that God is in charge and admitting that you can only do so much and after that it is up to your Higher Power to take over.

Like all things, it is easier said than done.....but then life teaches.....eventually.........and we are here to learn........

Kabhi-kabhi zindaji mein...

A few lyrics of the "Aditi" song from the latest movie "Jaane tu yaa jane na" ~
The beauty of this song lies in its lovely music...underlying innocence...evident simplicity and the meaningful lyrics...

"Kabhi kabhi Aditi zindagi mein yuhi koi apna lagta hai.
Kabhi kabhi Aditi wo bichhar jaaye to ek sapna lagta hai.
Aise mei koi kaise apne aansu o ko behne se roke?
Aur kaise koi sochle everything’s gonna be ok?

Soch jara jaaneja tujhko hum kitna chahte hai.
Rotein hai hum bhi aggar teri ankhon mein aansu aate hai.
Gaane to aata nahi hai magar phir bhi hum gaate hai.
Ke Aditi maan kabhi, kabhi saare jahan mein andhera hota hai;
Lekin raat ke baad hi to sawera hota hai."

Lekin raat ke baad hi to sawera hota hai...
Lekin raat ke baad hi to sawera hota hai...
Lekin raat ke baad hi to sawera hota hai...
(I'm telling this to myself....... :))

"Tu khush hai to lage ke jahan mein chhaayi hai khushi.
Suraj nikle baadlon se aur baatein zindagi.
Suun to jara madhosh hawa tujhse kehne lagi.
Ke Aditi wo jo bichhad-te hai ek na ek din phir mil jaate hai;

Aditi jaane tu ya jaane na phool phir khil jaate hai."

Ke Aditi wo jo bichhad-te hai ek na ek din phir mil jaate hai;Aditi jaane tu ya jaane na phool phir khil jaate hai.
I want to believe it soooooo badly.........!!! :) :)

I also liked the universal appeal of the song....the fact that most of the people would be able to relate with some or the other part of the song....

For the whole day today it was on my lips and i was humming it consciously or unconsciously throughout the day...So definitely this warrents the song a place on my blog ! :)

The fadings...

A little girl looks at the sky
And cries ~
"The red rose you had planted for me
Does not smile these days,
It does not dance
When the rain sprinkles on it,
It does not laugh
When the wind tickles it,
It does not blush
When I say "You the most beautiful rose in the world.."
Does it not believe in me anymore...?
Its red is turning paler and paler
It days are not over yet,
Then why has its soft petals forgotten to quiver with joy?
What unkown season is it awaiting to rejoice...?"

Looking at the saddened girl
And her paling rose,
A drop of tear trickles down my cheek,
For them and for myself too, sadly,
For in both their fadings
I see a reflection of me...

The essential...

"On ne voit bien qu'avec le coeur, l'essential est invisible pour les yeux"

- By Antoine de Saint -Exupery in "Le Petit Prince"

This meaningful phrase is spoken by the fox to the little prince in the above mentioned, very popular french book for children, which means ~

One can only see well with the heart. The essential is invisible to the eyes.........

How beautiful and how true....! the air we breath, the fragrance of a flower, feelings of the heart, relations, passions, emotions, warmth of a touch.....are'nt these all invisible? Can we imagine living without these.....?

A matter of trust...

At times we find ourselves asking "Why" to something bad that happens to us. In a situation like this we tend to curse the person who's done us wrong or we curse ourselves or our destiny or God. But if we analyse such a situation objectively, most of the times there's a hidden learning there ~ a lesson that life wants to teach us through this experience.

I am thinking about this specially because of something bad that happened to me a few days back. It got me thinking into the reasons of why this happened and I needed to understand what was the lesson here. What happened was a situation where I behaved in a particular way trusting someone I didnt know much and on his part he misbehaved with me and broke my trust. I felt humiliated and was angry on him. How could he have behaved with me so loosely? How did I allow myself to get into this mess? And then I started analysing the situation. It was completely wrong on his part to have misbehaved with me, but at the same time wasnt I also at fault in trusting him without knowing him well? Trust requires time to be developed. So on what basis had I assumed that I could trust him?

So while this situation brings out the negativity of his character, it also makes me realize my mistake of being somewhat gullible and naive. It made me realize the true meaning of the word "trust" and its significance and also made me value the people in my life whom I can trust....
I dont know when that person will learn his lesson, but I did learn mine. Its a hard way of learning, but life never was a soft teacher....

Earth's dance

The rains are here to meet the earth again.... ! Here's an ode to their eternal romance...

What is the monsoon doing to this earth?

In what way is he touching her ?

That from her heart and her soul

Emerald passion is taking birth...

Oh ! hear his roaring and his rumbling,

The passion of his love and his calling,

See her swaying and her swooning,

Careless walk, with graceful stumbling...

Waiting for his love's pouring ~

Of joyous droplets on the misty green,

With hope and joy and affection and sheen,

Dancing now is the rustic queen...

Reflections during the battle...

The battle is on. It has been going on since the time I took my first breath in this world. Only, that I realized it much, much later. I guess I was sleeping or dreaming all the time, and when I woke up I saw myself surrounded by the enemy’s troops. But by then the enemy had already sabotaged my forces, had spies in my camp and I was left alone to fight this battle. I could have chosen to ignore it all, gone back to sleep and not given a damn about anything. But I chose to fight and here I am ~ finding myself struggling and falling and rising and then again falling…feeling depleted of energy and then recharging myself and coming back with new strategies to combat the enemy. There are times when this whole struggle seems worth and there are times when I feel exhausted and disappointed and gloomy and I feel like dropping my weapons and letting the enemy catch me, tie me up in chains and throw me in some dark cell. Where it would be so dark that nothing would be visible, not even any thoughts. And that would end it all.

But there is something living in me which is not letting me do that, which is pushing me to fight till the last breath. Something in me which says that this struggle will be over, the efforts will be worth and the enemy would be defeated. So I believe and hang on, but I only wish the enemy I am fighting wasn’t my own self.